What’s love gotta do with it

Couple in love on the beach

Do you ever find yourself feeling anchored to a toxic relationship, simply because your love for your partner is too deep? At this juncture, it’s essential to ask: “What role does love really play in this scenario?”

In the vast complexities of human experience, love and relationships exist as two distinct entities that don’t necessarily operate in unison. Love, in its purest form, is unconditional. It represents a deep emotional attachment that isn’t dependent on conditions or boundaries. Conversely, relationships thrive on conditions. They represent a social contract between two individuals, guided by mutual understanding and requirements.

It’s entirely possible, and indeed healthy, to love someone unconditionally, while simultaneously recognizing that they may not satisfy your conditions for a relationship. These conditions are far from being unreasonable demands; they’re fundamental requirements that cater to your emotional, physical, and mental well-being. The most elementary among these is mutual respect.

A relationship devoid of mutual respect, no matter the amount of love present, can create an environment of despair and misery. In such instances, love or lack of is not the root cause of your suffering. Instead, it’s the absence of a basic relationship requirement, respect.

If your relationship is steeped in misery, it begs the question: “How can such a relationship succeed and flourish?” It’s important to remember, a vibrant and happy relationship is the reflection of two fulfilled individuals coming together.

So, if you find yourself in the toxic cycle of a disrespectful relationship, remember to separate the love you feel for your partner from the conditions you require in a relationship. It’s only then that you can start to make decisions that prioritize your happiness and well-being. As I always say, happy individuals make happy relationships.

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